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This Week's prompt: In-Laws
Do you love your in-laws? Do your in-laws love you?
As the holidays approach I realize this is a great thing to talk about... we all have them... either Mothers or Fathers in Law, Sisters or Brothers in Law, Sons or Daughters in law.... no matter how isolated we are .... unless we are only children who never married ... there is an in-law in your life! So tell me.... do you love them and do they love you back?
Holy Merry Christmas Brenda this is a whopper!!! I am going to skip MIL or FIL well actually my FIL is pro me & I do believe he loves me for what I have done for his son & for the hard worker I am, plus he might not tell me but he does tell his son I am quite the looker...no I didn't say hooker that would be his sons term for me plus other extremely mean things which brings me to my current BIL from my husband....HE HATES Me absolutely HATES ( he is a women hater) he has voiced numerous times which got back to us that I tore his family apart. It took me 6 years of abusive remarks from him at family gatherings that when I asked to be stood up for I was told to ignore him that was just the way he was and it was perfectly fine in his mothers home to disrespect me in front of everyone, I was suppose to just take it. We have only attend 2 current events with him present in the last 7 yrs. I am sorry but if one of my sons was talking to a guest in my home the way he did they would be told to leave and possibly slap in the face.
I adore, admire, & praise the Lord for my SIL (my youngest bro wife) what she has had to go thru in our family woowee I would have ran for the hills, my mom is a horrible person but my SIL still opens her home to her as stressful as going thru a hurricane during the visits she does it, might not like it, but she does it.
oh before I go to far my oldest sister.... her husband is a pretty nice guy, I like him alot!!! I have no idea his opinion of me yep 29 yrs & I am not sure yikes huh? It is hard being the black sheep in the family. BUT his mom my sisters MIL is the BEST MIL I have EVER seen or heard of I LOVE her & am so glad my sister has her (again because our mom was a nightmare) funny thing I knew my sisters MIL years before she did, it was thru foster families I met her & she worked at the jr high I was going to and then few yrs. later my sister transferred colleges to the town I was living in and met her future husband in college, small world.
My son-in-law.... I treat with love & respect and do not over step in their relationship, I try to see both sides and I think because of that he loves me. I know what it is like to have an in law that no matter what??? they just do not like you, so I say if it isn't me then it is YOU and you can either get over yourself or we can just not sit next to each other at the family event oh and PLEASE do not ever feel the need to pretend because I am NOT into fake if you do not like me so be it but do not pour it on for the others I don't need that and I WILL not do it in return if I do not like you then I do not pretend to. My mom always said when we were growing up if so-& so thinks I am going to eat her food & sit in her home while she bad mouths me she can think again!!! I was not raised to turn the other cheek wish I could but some things are hard to change and for some reason that one made sense....
As the holidays approach I realize this is a great thing to talk about... we all have them... either Mothers or Fathers in Law, Sisters or Brothers in Law, Sons or Daughters in law.... no matter how isolated we are .... unless we are only children who never married ... there is an in-law in your life! So tell me.... do you love them and do they love you back?
Holy Merry Christmas Brenda this is a whopper!!! I am going to skip MIL or FIL well actually my FIL is pro me & I do believe he loves me for what I have done for his son & for the hard worker I am, plus he might not tell me but he does tell his son I am quite the looker...no I didn't say hooker that would be his sons term for me plus other extremely mean things which brings me to my current BIL from my husband....HE HATES Me absolutely HATES ( he is a women hater) he has voiced numerous times which got back to us that I tore his family apart. It took me 6 years of abusive remarks from him at family gatherings that when I asked to be stood up for I was told to ignore him that was just the way he was and it was perfectly fine in his mothers home to disrespect me in front of everyone, I was suppose to just take it. We have only attend 2 current events with him present in the last 7 yrs. I am sorry but if one of my sons was talking to a guest in my home the way he did they would be told to leave and possibly slap in the face.
I adore, admire, & praise the Lord for my SIL (my youngest bro wife) what she has had to go thru in our family woowee I would have ran for the hills, my mom is a horrible person but my SIL still opens her home to her as stressful as going thru a hurricane during the visits she does it, might not like it, but she does it.
oh before I go to far my oldest sister.... her husband is a pretty nice guy, I like him alot!!! I have no idea his opinion of me yep 29 yrs & I am not sure yikes huh? It is hard being the black sheep in the family. BUT his mom my sisters MIL is the BEST MIL I have EVER seen or heard of I LOVE her & am so glad my sister has her (again because our mom was a nightmare) funny thing I knew my sisters MIL years before she did, it was thru foster families I met her & she worked at the jr high I was going to and then few yrs. later my sister transferred colleges to the town I was living in and met her future husband in college, small world.
Family relationships are very difficult especially when you can't get along. We have very little to do with our in-laws or even our family for that matter. My relationship with my own SILs and DIL is supportive but I will not step over any boundries they have. The grandchildren make it easier.
ReplyDeleteI tell my hubs how lucky he is to not have to deal with my family they all live states away & I have no relationship with my mom all the in law stuff is from his and it took him forever to see or I should say accept that they really were not saints when it came to me.
DeleteYou are in my thoughts and prayers each day!
ReplyDeleteHUGS!!!!
AS R you BETH !!! ((HUGS))
DeleteI did not get along with my bil when I was married. He was a horrible person, a user and a woman hater.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a great track record with BIL's either mostly due to alcohol and then the other part was they were jerks!!
DeleteThank you for your comment on my blog. It really helped me. Family dynamics are such a pain in the butt at times. I hate it that you BIL is so nasty to you.
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcomed. Yeah I am okay with the BIL I refuse to just accept it so thankfully my hubs no longer argues in his behalf.
DeleteI am so glad you wrote all of this.....I think family dynamics are hard... and some people make them even harder!
ReplyDeleteLove you!
YES they do Brenda and some people need to get over themselves and just be nice....Love YOU this was a good ponder!!
DeleteSome people just done get the concept of "family"! in-law or not, it doesn't matter . . . it's all family. And family is supposed to love each other! Boo for your icky BIL
ReplyDeleteBut do we have to like each other ???LOL LOL
DeleteOh do I know about hating BIL's!! My husband's brother is not even in our life right now. By his own choice, and by his own words. He is Bi-polar and while I sympathize, I will not take your crap and let you use that as an excuse to treat me badly. (and publicly on Facebook, thank you very much.) So yeah....with you on that one.
ReplyDeleteMy inlaws have a very different family structure and sense of "closeness" than my huge extended family that always gets together and loves and supports one another. Aside from BIL, there's nothing wrong, or bad about my inlaws. They're just differnet - the lives their own lives, and family is really just an afterthought. It's not that I don't love them; there just exists and absence of any "real" relationship, and that makes me sad. Especially for my husband.
My MIL can be downright nasty to be around - but she's like that with everyone, so I don't take it personally. I've learned to just shrug it off, and let hubby deal with her.